Soon after 1 month or so I was carving for time at my end, people at my end all said the same thing to me, that once you get married then we will ask you about it. Your life won’t remains yours at all. I always used to say let’s see it when time comes.
And so it happened, when I got married and moved back to Jeddah while my wife was still in homeland for the visa process to finish.
So we were talking for hours and hours which was understandable, but slowly and gradually I was carving for time for myself.
It’s been 6 years I have moved to Saudi Arabia, and I have been living independently, so I have my own little world besides me.
I have my own rigorous schedule that I love, I sleep early and wake up early and go out early in the morning for sea side walk, I get indulged in reading a book, or play xbox and alot more. No one to ask or bother me about anything. But after marriage things change and it goes not the way we wanted. Good or bad is a separate issue.
I thought for a while the reason for this, I realized that the main issue of argument between couple is because of this same reason. Wife say that when her husband comes back from office he should be all hers. And I agree to the women point of view, that after all they have been in home throughout the morning and they need company.
P.S: I am talking from the eastern culture point of view, where wife usually stays in home!!!
I said to myself what is the solution for this and what is the cause of this issue.
I led to this conclusion and talked with my wife about and she more or less agrees to it as well. It’s like that when wife thinks that men all their time in office and when they come back to home, all the time is theirs is wrong, since the amount of time spend in office is for both. No one can stay that this time which is spend is for one individual purpose.
After the office hours the hours needs to be calculated as to how much tentatively both of them have for together. Let’s suppose 5 or 6 or 4 hours whatever the case may be. This time either has to be spend together equally or a part of it has to be given in a ratio that husband gets some of the time for himself as well. Ofcourse he also needs some time for himself.
Our issue is that when husband comes home, they sit in front of television or internet, for wife and husband, the guy is resting instead he is tiring himself much more, and the result is after watching television he lies straight on the bed for 1 hour, after that dinner time, then after having diner no person on earth can have the energy left to go out or to talk for hours.
A simple formula would be that instead of watching television straight from office, spend either with wife or sleep or go to gym. Then spend the rest of the time with wife, in that way and by talking to wife about this partition of time, I personally think both will remain happy.
Do let me know, if you agree with this idea, as to whether it’s practical or not!!!