Which step have you reached today?

Initiative!

I was listening to a sermon on one of the Companion of the Last Prophet of Islam Umer Bin Khattab (May Allah Be Pleased With Him) by Anwar Al Awlaki and at the same time working in my office on some pending stuff. When one of my colleague brought a memo to me showing that one of my colleague is going on a training to Hong Kong.

This is not a jealousy infected blog, the reason why I am writing is because me and three of my colleagues have already applied for a training to Dubai couple of months back and have been rejected due to shortage of budget.

I got a little bit disappointed after looking at the memo. So thought to express myself overhere.

While listening to this sermon, the speaker said the great qualities of Umer Bin Khattab (May Allah Be Pleased With Him) is his initiative qualities, He is always initiative in his task, need and desire, it’s this quality in Him that makes Him distinctive above the rest of the Sahaba (May Allah be pleased with them).

So I was considering my situation, what makes me different from my this colleague. And I said to myself yes I do have this weakness. I don’t initiate the things at my end which I should have.

I look at other people who are my mentors or to whom I look up to, and all of them have this same skill which makes them above all. The rest of people around them all work in the same capacity as they are but the people who have this gift or trait of initiative have two great skills in them: one is the power of initiation and the rest courage in their action / decision.

Those who don’t have them, often say that we are into the truff war and we are not the like who show off their skills while the so called person use this to come up, they are right, I think their is a thin line between showing off and taking initiative. Showing off to your boss mainly goes more towards the negative / bad aspect while taking initiative in task and job and other activities goes towards the positive side for the person.

The speaker said in that sermon, that we should be having this trait more in ourselves these days which is getting depleted in the youth.

After this incidence I felt that really I need to work and study to take this skill in my personality. Since if you want to succeed, you got to have this trait specially when you are the head of the family since everyone look after your lead. And where this trait is gone, the family goes out of direction. And all the leaders have this trait in one form or another.

YOU EXIST BUT DO YOU LIVE!

My very close friend lost his brother in law a year or so back due to a tragic accident, although I never met him but always heard good things about him, a very rare opinion these days to be heard all over the world.

And it made me think about it, what if I go away from this world, what opinion does people hold for me.

It’s not about seeking praise but it’s more about what influence you left in the people after you gone from this world.

We are all going through tough, mental and stressful time, that the world has ever saw, but few comes out of it, as if everything is normal.

I seek the answer from such people what makes them so wonderful, smiling, happy, content and peaceful.

I don’t have any definite answer for it, but I come up with the following random things coming into my mind:

- Don’t let anyone or anything makes you do what you don’t want initially.

- Ask your heart what it wants.

- Seek God in private and public, openly and secretly.

- Have few friends but such that will give you some new prospective of life.

- Always have one or two real life living mentors that you trust, that you can go and meet, that you can take live example rather reading about dead people that doesn’t fit your life purely because of different culture, time, age or other reason.

- Incline your brain with your heart.

- Make your life goal and reach it not with a deadline but with purpose to achieve it and what it will give you in the end. Write it on a piece of paper and see that page often to remind you about your goal in life.

- Make simple, small wishes and desires but be concrete, achievable, attainable, easy, flexible and most of all enjoyable to achieve it.

- Remember money doesn’t makes you happy.

- Be practical, positively or negatively doesn’t matter, since one cannot change one’s nature so the best thing to do is to be practical.

- Make physical relationships strong and bonded.

- Learn the art of communication with other people.

- Last but not the least, I would like to quote my school teacher, you gave me this advise when I was leaving my high school and entering college life:

“All this world is froth and bubble, two things stands alone: Kindness in others trouble and courage in your own”

Children and Married life!

Yesterday my wife told me to put the cufflinks she got from her homeland before she moved with me, when I saw it, it was not the one I prefer to wear. Luckily that day the shirt she took out for me to wear didn’t have the option to put on. So I got saved from belittling her, I told her that I will put on today.

Today, I put it on, since I was getting late to office so I told her to assist me in putting it, she got happy a little bit that I put on.

Since I was in hurry I didn’t pay that much heed into the matter, so I left for office.

Just now it reminded me of it so I had a look at it, and I said to myself, what the worst it has done to me, what I said no in the first case, the purpose of the cufflink is to put together the cuff of the sleeve.

A small thing makes big changes in a family life.

I realized now that when I didn’t like it in the first place I was acting like a child, where parents usually force their children to do things they don’t like, but if we do what our parents like, our parents love us more although they still do love us.

Our relationship is somewhat similar to this relationship.

We just need to be mature and adult in our marriage life and ignore small things.

Billionaire’s 10 Keys To Success

Billionaire’s 10 Keys To Success.

Interesting blog, reshared from the Blog Wealthymatters after reading from Life coaching with Marie blog.

 

Benefits of sleeping early!!!

This article I have read at Gulf News thought to share with you everyone!

 

23 Successful People Who Wake Up Really Early

Most business leaders get up early. This trait was common to 17 CEO’s surveyed by Jim Citrin at Yahoo Finance a few years ago. And it’s a trait we expect from CEOs. They are go-getters who want to start the day before their peers and competitors, who want to work long hours and have enough time for their personal life too.

Many function unbelievably well on little sleep. Others may not function well but are driven by the stress of running a company to get up anyway.

We identified a bunch of successful people who get up early. Let us know who we missed.

General Motors’ CEO Dan Akerson

Akerson told the AP he will rarely sleep past 4:30 or 5, waking up so he can talk to GM Asia before it gets too late. He calls it the best job he’s ever had: “It’s complex and interesting and exciting.”

Sadly, he also describes having “a lot of sleepless nights.” At least they aren’t long sleepless nights.

Virgin America CEO David Cush

Cush described his morning routine to the AP: Wakes up at 4:15 am, sends emails, calls business associates on the East Coast, and that’s before listening to Dallas sports radio, reading the paper and hitting the bike at the gym.

Apple CEO Tim Cook

Cook is known for getting up and sending out company emails at 4:30 in the morning, according to Gawker’s Ryan Tate. By 5 AM he can be found in the gym. And he works late too, priding himself on being the first in the office and the last out.

Disney CEO Robert Iger

Iger told the New York Times he gets up at 4:30 every morning. He takes the quiet time to do a number of things, claiming to read the papers, exercise, listen to music, look at email and watch TV all at once. Even though it’s quiet time, he’s “already multitasking.”

Hain Celestial Group CEO Irwin Simon

Simon accomplishes more before 9 a.m. than most people do all day. He wakes up 5 a.m, going through emails and calling operations in Europe and Asia. He also prays, walks the dog and exercises before his kids wake up. He arrives at his office in Long Island usually after squeezing in a breakfast meeting in Manhattan as well.

Former Peugeot GM Jean-Martin Folz

Now headed to the board of Eutelsat Communications, the former head of Peugeot was said to catch the 4 a.m. train from Dijon to Paris, and would finish up a briefing paper within minutes of arriving to his office at 7 a.m. According to the Observer, Folz also had his Renault Espace converted into an office so he could work while commuting.

Former Oxygen Channel CEO Gerry Laybourne

The founder of Oxygen is awake by 6 a.m. and out of the house a half hour later. If you get up early enough she might even take you under her wing, she tells Yahoo! Finance:

“Once or twice a week, I go for a walk in Central Park with a young person seeking my advice. This is my way of helping bring along the next generation. And if someone is up early in the morning then they are serious about life. I can’t take time at the office to do this, but doing it in the morning allows me to get exercise and stay connected with young people at the same time.”

Aurora Fashions CEO Mike Shearwood

As head of one of the UK’s trendiest fashion companies, Shearwood’s day starts early. Shearwood wakes up at 5 a.m. in order to travel from Nottingham to London in time for a 7:45 arrival. He loves the long commute both ways: “I catch up on emails and work, as well as speaking to teams on the phone.”

 

Christie’s CEO Steve Murphy

The former head of publishing company Rodale turns to poet William Blake for inspiration on how to start his day: “‘Think in the morning, act in the noon, read in the evening, and sleep at night.’ This has made a huge difference in my life.”

Thinking and planning in the morning makes Murphy — in his words — strategic and proactive, rather than reactive.

New Jersey Nets CEO Brett Yormark

The youngest CEO in the NBA told SellingPower that he gets up at 3:30 in the morning in order to get to the office by 4:30. From there, he works out and sends motivational emails to his team.

He takes it easy on the weekends, arriving at the office by 7 a.m. instead.

 

Brooklyn Industries CEO Lexy Funk

The artistic co-founder of the Brooklyn-based clothing and bag shop told the Huffington Post that her routine starts early: I usually wake up around 4 a.m. From there, the dilemma of whether to read and bore herself back to sleep or get on her BlackBerry begins. Once online, she’s answering emails and talking to people from Brooklyn Industries.

Cedar Fair Entertainment CEO Matt Ouimet

The former president of Starwood Hotels and CFO of Disney just became the CEO of a company that runs amusement parks. Referring to work as “game time,” according to Yahoo Finance, Ouimet likes to get to the office early, waking up at 5:30 in order to get out of the house by 6 a.m.

Saban Capital CEO Haim Saban

As head of the Saban Capital Group, this Egyptian-born Israeli-American billionaire has his first cup of coffee at 6:02 a.m. and begins work from there. He works for an hour before exercising for 75 minutes to really start his day, according to Yahoo Finance.

 

Unilever CEO Paul Polman

In order to stay competitive mentally and physically, the Dutch-born Polman gets up at 6 a.m. so he can run on the treadmill in his office. This also gives him time to “reflect on the work day ahead,” which is probably pretty hectic at a multinational food and detergent company.

Cisco CTO Padmasree Warrior

Although she doesn’t run right to the office upon waking up at 4:30 a.m. , Warrior spends an hour on email, reads the news, works out and gets her son ready for school. And she is still in the office by 8:30 at the latest, according to Yahoo Finance.

She was formerly the CTO of Motorola, and has been one of the most highly acclaimed women in business over the course of her career.

 

Former PepsiCo CEO Steve Reinemund

Now the dean of Schools of Business at Wake Forest University, the long-time head of Pepsi told Yahoo Finance that he would be out of bed at 5:30, already reading the papers. He would go through The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, Financial Times and The Dallas Morning News before heading to work.

 

Avon Products CEO Andrea Jung

Jung wakes up at 5 in the morning and goes to the gym before getting to her desk at 8, says Forbes.

 

Former Goldman Sachs and MF Global CEO Jon Corzine

Colleagues recalled to The New York Times that he would be in the office by 6 a.m, even after taking a five mile run in the morning. Yet he was still the last person to leave in the evenings.

Starbucks CEO Howard Schultz

Schultz starts his day with a workout, which is usually a bike ride with his wife, but still gets to the office by 6 a.m., according to Portfolio.com.

There must be something about Starbucks that makes people want to do this, as president Michelle Gass wakes up at 4:30 every morning to go running, and has done so for 15 years.

Must be all the coffee.

 

Former PayPal and OpenTable head Jeff Jordan

The recently-resigned CEO of OpenTable, Jordan told The New York Times that he is in the office by 5 a.m, and doesn’t leave until after 7 p.m. However, as Jordan admits, these long hours played a role in his departure from PayPal.

Former presidents George HW Bush and George W Bush

The first Bush would get up at 4 a.m., go running, be in the office by 6 a.m. and stay up until 2 a.m. “He was a horror,” said a former White House nurse who had to try to keep up with him.

The second Bush kept a similar schedule, going to the office by 6:45 a.m. and often holding meetings at this ripe hour, according to The NYT.

So did W. Bush’s cabinet. Colin Powell put in “perfectly appalling” hours, arriving to the office at 6 a.m., and not leaving until after 7 p.m., according to his former students. Condoleeza Rice woke up every day at 4:30 in the morning in order to get to the gym before work.

 

Benjamin Franklin

A major figure of the American Enlightenment and a Founding Father of the United States, Franklin is credited with the saying that perhaps started this whole trend in the first place: Early to bed and early to rise, makes a man healthy, wealthy and wise. He planned his routine around waking up at 5 a.m. and asking himself  “What good shall I do this day?”

 

 

Deactivation and Curiosity Syndrome!!!

I recently decided to deactivate my facebook account yet again.

But this time its different, I try to research about why we become addicted to facebook.

What makes it so tempting that a person after fully burned out and exhausted at one point of time again go through it as if nothing has happened before.

Now I am not a psychologist by profession at all, so please don’t treat my opinion in this regard, I am just a keen observer of things which happened to influence my life. So I research upon it and ask question and seek answer to it.

Since the time of deactivation till writing this blog, my mind has crossed some contrasting logic relating to it. So I thought its better to write a blog about it.

The most striking of logic’s which came across my mind, which answer this question of addiction is “Curiosity”.

Facebook in my books has raised the “CURIOSITY INSTINCTS” in our mind. We tend to seek whats going on in someone life, intentionally or unintentionally. Why more often than not we say or read repeatedly in someone post that facebook is our next real life place or has replaced our practical life. The obvious answer to that is in real life we have this urge a desire to know about the other when we came across, whether good or not, just for the sake of curiosity we need to know, no matter it’s beneficial for us or not. But we need to know.

This instincts has made us take back and forth again and again to it. Facebook has raised this to such a level that we become psychologically handicapped and become addicted to this instincts unintentionally. This addiction is taking it’s toll on anyone from young to old like wild fire. Everyday when we wake up, we need to know who is doing what. Imagine in real life will we be able to do all this at such rapid speed. NO!

It’s this very devilish I would say trait I mean “Curiosity”  in human that needs it, the need arises when it gets the taste of it. Else this remains quite without letting you know it’s hidden agenda.

But like in real life every person agenda in life is different from the other so its usage. Some people use it to kill loads of spare time at their end by playing only game/s and nothing else. While some very few spend it for gaining knowledge religious or otherwise.

But the majority of the users of facebook are still involved in this ‘CURIOSITY SYNDROME” We all didn’t realize this syndrome at all, and many will not agree to my opinion, but yes if we ask this question from ourselves we will say YES.

Facebook addiction is because of this syndrome, and nothing else.

We need to ask this question, is this syndrome bad or good. In my books it’s bad in every sense why?

A very small amount of good exist in this syndrome, which relates to keeping the good welfare of the other in times of trouble and need only. But the majority part of this syndrome is evil in my books. It’s like someone is unintentionally peeping your life of your every move and saying something about it. Your every thought and move is watched and get commented. You are always under spot light. If you say this is not exactly the case, then correct me with my observation.

A person becomes burned out after a while so easily with it, living with the constant intentional or unintentional desires of attention or appreciation, but after this constant addiction level of curiosity, attention and appreciation is out, like heroine addiction it comes back again in us. And we resorted to reactivate our account.  The “Curiosity Syndrome” comes back to us, telling us in it’s own version, to change the way we look at things around.

When yesterday I came to this conclusion, I said to myself, it’s not enough of my time and money to get addicted so passionately with it. Yes I will reactivate my account, not for the sake of attention or appreciation but to spread the good to tell the others what is right and what is wrong.

A context of one Quranic verse is “Amil Bil Maroof Waa Nahe Anil Munkar” rough translation is Give instructions of good and refrain yourself from evil.

I will keep this principle in mind while using my facebook when I reactivate my account. But not until I am able to tame my curiosity syndrome to an extent that it won’t hurt me, pinch me, poke me, effect me in my life and to artificially increase my desire of it. As long as I can able to keep a check and balance of it. I will say it’s better to go ahead use the account, if not then better shut it down. Take the contact number / email of my friends and foe and keep in touch by email once in a while. It’s much better to do something unorthodox which should be orthodox.

In the end I would say kindly place your comment in order to increase my learning curve for this topic. And please feel free to share it. I believe in sharing and not in copyright as long as due credit is given for original thoughts.

 

Social Responsibility

It’s a responsibility on the person while being on any social media sites like facebook, twitter or WordPress that the person gives something meaningful to the others in large, which can make someone day or life happy, peaceful, loving and much more in whatever manner possible.

Today I was looking at my blog it got 6 followers, and I wonder, what should I post on my blog that will make their day better than before or something worth in their life.

It requires some real brain cells to work to think about the subject and it’s ultimate consequences in one and other people life.

I take net life like my practical life, that my self brings something meaningful in someone life whether small or big, whether I get something in return or not. Their should be something meaningful to the other. I hope, wish and pray that I will continue doing it the same I have been doing for years and that people at my end, enjoy learning things which can bring something meaningful in their life in any way.

God make me a T.V!

GOD, MAKE ME A TV !

A teacher from Primary School asks her students to write a essay about what they
would like God to do for them… At the end of the day, while marking the
essays, she read one that made her very emotional. Her husband, who had just
walked in, saw her crying and asked her: ‘What happened?’

She answered: ‘Read this. It is one of my students’ essay.’

“Oh God, tonight I ask you something very special:

Make me into a television. I want to take its place and live like the TV in my
house.

Have my own special place, And have my family around ME.

To be taken seriously when I talk…

I want to be the centre of attention and be heard without interruptions or
questions.

I want to receive the same special care that the TV receives even when it is not
working.

Have the company of my dad when he arrives home from work, even when he is
tired.

And I want my mom to want me when she is sad and upset, instead of ignoring
me…

And… I want my brothers to fight to be with me…

I want to feel that family just leaves everything aside, every now and then,
just to spend some time with me.

And last but not least, ensure that I can make them all happy and entertain
them…

Lord I don’t ask you for much… I just want to live like a TV.”

At that moment, the husband said: ‘My God, poor kid. What horrible parents!’

The wife looked up at him and said: ‘That essay is our son’s!!!’

Facebook and Islamic Prospective!!!

Stay away from Facebook, but if you have to be here, give it its rights. On the information highway there are rights upon you.

The Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم (Peace Be Upon Him) said: “Beware of sitting on the roadways.” They said, “We have no alternative; that is where we sit and talk.” He said, “If you insist on sitting there, then give the roadway its rights.” They said, “What are the rights of the roadway?” He said, “’Lowering your gaze, refraining from harming others, returning greetings, and enjoining what is good, and forbidding what is evil.” (Narrated by al-Bukhaari, Muslim).

By AbdulBary Yahya

 

Golden words for present era!!!

Thought-provoking words by renowned classical comedian, George Carlin:

“The paradox of our time in history is that we have taller buildings but shorter tempers, wider Freeways , but narrower viewpoints. We spend more, but have less, we buy more, but enjoy less. We have bigger houses and smaller families, more conveniences, but less time. We have more degrees but less sense, more knowledge, but less judgment, more experts, yet more problems, more medicine, but less wellness.

We drink too much, smoke too much, spend too recklessly, laugh too little, drive too fast, get too angry, stay up too late, get up too tired, read too little, watch TV too much, and pray too seldom.

We have multiplied our possessions, but reduced our values. We talk too much, love too seldom, and hate too often.

We’ve learned how to make a living, but not a life. We’ve added years to life not life to years. We’ve been all the way to the moon and back, but have trouble crossing the street to meet a new neighbor. We conquered outer space but not inner space. We’ve done larger things, but not better things.

We’ve cleaned up the air, but polluted the soul. We’ve conquered the atom, but not our prejudice. We write more, but learn less. We plan more, but accomplish less. We’ve learned to rush, but not to wait. We build more computers to hold more information, to produce more copies than ever, but we communicate less and less.

These are the times of fast foods and slow digestion, big men and small character, steep profits and shallow relationships. These are the days of two incomes but more divorce, fancier houses, but broken homes. These are days of quick trips, disposable diapers, throwaway morality, one night stands, overweight bodies, and pills that do everything from cheer, to quiet, to kill. It is a time when there is much in the showroom window and nothing in the stockroom A time when technology can bring this letter to you, and a time when you can choose either to share this insight, or to just hit delete…

Remember; spend some time with your loved ones, because they are not going to be around forever.

Remember, say a kind word to someone who looks up to you in awe, because that little person soon will grow up and leave your side.

Remember, to give a warm hug to the one next to you, because that is the only treasure you can give with your heart and it doesn’t cost a cent.

Remember, to say, ‘I love you’ to your partner and your loved ones, but most of all mean it. A kiss and an embrace will mend hurt when it comes from deep inside of you.

Remember to hold hands and cherish the moment for someday that person will not be there again

Give time to love, give time to speak! And give time to share the precious thoughts in your mind.

And Always Remember:

Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away.”

Hugs and Cry!!!

O Allah Subhan Waa Taalah I remember the shivers in the shape of angels coming to me, when I felt Your love at my end.

O Allah Subhan Waa Taalah I want to hug You and cry profoundly, that I was born amongst the people who will uphold your name till the Last day of this world,

O Allah Subhan Waa Taalah I want to hug You and Cry profoundly that I didn’t did so far what You have ordained me to do but still I wanted to do,

O Allah Subhan Waa Taalah I want to hug You and cry profoundly, that whenever I come to deepest note of my life, You show me light to lift me up, when I comes below the level of Ashraful Maqlooqat (The highest level in human chain) You just come with Your guidance and signs and show me I am above all not for myself but to uphold Your name.

O Allah Subhan Waa Taalah I want to hug You and cry profoundly so that this spirit and signs of faith remains inside me and much more in my InshaAllah Taalah future generation.

O Allah Subhan Waa Taalah I want to hug You and cry profoundly so that my loneliness becomes pure for Your guidance to comes for Your love to enter in my heart and in my home and in my life.

O Allah Subhan Waa Taalah I want to hug You and cry profoundly so that I slept in that state and be lied in grave and will wake up hugging and crying seeing in front of my eyes InshaAllah Taalah

O Allah Subhan Waa Taalah I want to hug You and cry profoundly so that not only me but my wife and InshaAllah Taalah children one day will all be like this way and will wake up like me. That they will be amongst the pious one, that they will be amongst the one whom people look up to be the example for other Muslims and Non-Muslims, that they will be amongst the ones who hold the truth even if they have to hold a burning coal in one hand but nothing else comes from their heart, mind and mouth except “ALLAH O AKHBAR” “ALLAH O AKHBAR” “ALLAH O AKHBAR” “Allah Subhan Waa Taalah is GREAT” and that we all meet in a beautiful palace in Jannatul Firdous.

O Allah Subhan Waa Taalah I want to hug You and cry profoundly for the lovely gifts you ordain to me in the shape of family and friends who supported me in being what I am today and what I meant to be, that they are my source of light in darkness that they are their when I was alone and have given up hope, that some have enlightened me with hope, some with courage, some with encouragement, some with knowledge and wisdom, some with lesson, some with gift of their deep friendship and love, some as a treasure of friendship like that Hazrat Abu Bakr Siddique Radhi Allah Taalah Anhau and that I love you for YOUR sake more than worldly desires or anything else.

O Allah Subhan Waa Taalah I want to hug You and cry profoundly for the blessings You gave me in the shape of accepting my prayers however delayed but when I received it, I know I was never meant to have that blessing but Your love was over and above my mistakes my faults, my disobedience of the past, present and future.

O Allah Subhan Waa Taalah I just want to hug You and cry profoundly for giving me that special feelings that I can’t enjoy with any human being.

O Allah Subhan Waa Taalah I just want to hug You and cry profoundly for giving this world a Prophet like Hazrat Muhammad Sallal Lahu Waalahe Waasalam and for personalities like Hazrat Abu Bakr Siddique Radhi Allah Taalah Anhau, Hazrat Umer Radhi Allah Taalah Anhau, Hazrat Usman Radhi Allah Taalah Anhau, Hazrat Ali Radhi Allah Taalah Anhau, Other Sahaba Radhi Allah Taalah Anhau, Noor-uddin Zangi, Sultan Salahuddin Ayubi, Imam Shumael, scholars and many more that I don’t know but those that brought forward YOURS and YOURS and Only YOURS love towards US in its different shape, style and ways that each and every one of us can have more and more of it, in any way we wanted too making YOUR love limitless without boundaries without magnitude of any scale, the more we go the more we indulge into it.

I love You my dear dear dear and beloved Allah Subhan Waa Taalah Yaa Raheem Yaa Kareem Yaa Ghafoor Yaa Shakoor Yaa Qadir ul Mutlaq

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Mirage!!!

First in Urdu language then in English translation by myself. It’s self explanatory no need to argument as to the present condition  of the  Muslim countries.

Sultan Salahuddin Ayubi nay Noor-ul-din Zangi kau tamam tarh haalat aur gaddaroon key saare kares-taniyan sunaein. Zangi nay kaha:

“Salahuddin! tumhare umer abhe itne nahe guzre kay chand aik haka-ek kau kabool kar sakoo yeah Islam key badh naseebi hay kay gaddar hamare kaum ka lazmi hissa bun gaah hain aur kaum en say kabhe paak nahe hauge.

Mujhay saaf nazar aaraha hay kay aik waqt aaeh ga, jubh gaddar kaum parh baqaedah haqumat karaein gay, dusman kay kalaf batein karein gay, buland dawaa karein gay, dushman kau kuchal daynay kay naarah lagaein gay magar qaum jaan nahe saaqay gey kay in kay hukmaraan darasal is kay aur is kay deen kay dusman kay saath darpardah doosti kar chukay hain.

Dusman inhe kau dhal aur inhe kau talwar banaaeh gaa aur en kay hatoo kaum kau marwaeh gaa, pareshan na hau salahuddin! hum halaat kau kaboo paalaein gay.

 

Translation:

Sultan Salahuddin Ayubi mentioned everything to Noor-ul-din Zangi about the condition of Egypt and the story of traitors and conspirators. Zangi said to him:

“Salahuddin! Your age is not much to grasp one or two more truth, It’s unfortunate that traitors have become an important ingredient and part of the Muslim Ummah / Nation and we can never become pure of them.

I can clearly see that one day will come when traitor will become a ruler of the state, he will speak against the enemy, make big speeches and pretention, will make slogan we will crush the enemy but the Ummah will not able to realize that their leaders in reality has made friendship / courtyard in secrecy with their and with the enemies of Islam.

The enemies themselves will make them shield and weapon against them, and will kill the Ummah in their own hands, don’t worry Salahuddin! We will take control of the matter.

 

Read from the book “Dastaan Emaan Faroshoon Key” By Altumash Volume 2-3 page 152.

 

Islam and Wife

HOW DID OUR BELOVED PROPHET MOHAMMAD Sallal Lahu Waalahe Waasalam TREATED HIS WIVES:

We all read about the life of Prophet Muhammad Sallal Lahu Waalahe Waasalam in the fields of education, faith, politics, war, or economy but seldom was written or published about his life Sallal Lahu Waalahe Waasalam inside his house and his relationship with his wives. A person well informed about the familial relationships of Prophet Muhammad Sallal Lahu Waalahe Waasalam finds out that it included meanings that we desperately miss in our present time. These meanings would contribute to the stability of our homes and marriages. In this article we are giving some examples of Prophet Muhammad’s Sallal Lahu Waalahe Waasalam consideration to the feelings of his wives, his appreciation, and manifestation of love.

Calling one’s wife with the name she loves most or with a nickname or a musical name is one of the forms of pampering and being kind to one’s wife. This can be seen in the life of Prophet Muhammad Sallal Lahu Waalahe Waasalam who, in a saying ‘Hadith’ that is agreed upon by scholars, used to say to his wife ‘A’isha Radhi Allah Taalah Anhau: “O ‘A’ish, this is Gabriel saying peace be upon you.” She replied:” and may peace and Allah’s Mercy and Blessings be upon him. You see what I don’t” (She meant the messenger of Allah Sallal Lahu Waalahe Waasalam.

He also used to call ‘A’isha Radhi Allah Taalah Anhau: (Homayraa’) a short form of (“Hamraa’) which, according to Ibn Kathir in ‘An Nehaya’, means the white skinned woman. Adh-dhahabi also said that “Hamraa’” in the language of the people of ‘Hejaz’ means white and blushing-a rare feature among them. So Prophet Muhammad Sallal Lahu Waalahe Waasalam used to treat ‘A’isha Radhi Allah Taalah Anhau kindly and call her with lovely names.

From the prophetic traditions ‘A’isha Radhi Allah Taalah Anhau narrated about fasting; Imam Muslim reported that she said: ‘The messenger of Allah Sallal Lahu Waalahe Waasalam used to kiss one of his wives while fasting, and then she laughs, may Allah be pleased with her.

In another prophetic tradition narrated by ‘A’isha Radhi Allah Taala Anhau, she said that Muhammad Sallal Lahu Waalahe Waasalam said that the best of the believers is the one who is best in manners and kindest to his own wife.

These sayings ‘Hadiths’ demonstrate how Prophet Muhammad Sallal Lahu Waalahe Waasalam cared for his wives and how well he treated ‘A’isha, May Allah be pleased with her.

One of the forms of cuddling and well treating one’s wife is feeding her with one’s own hands. Prophet Muhammad Sallal Lahu Waalahe Waasalam said: “Whatever you spend is considered charity even the mouthful that you put in your wife’s mouth.”

Even the food that one feeds his wife with his hands is considered an act of charity that is rewarded by Allah the Almighty and not only an action that guarantees her love and cooperation.

Cuddling and being kind to one’s wife has a tremendous emotional effect on her. This action of following the example of Prophet Muhammad Sallal Lahu Waalahe Waasalam costs a man nothing and grants him Allah’s reward, his wife’s love and cooperation. Therefore a man is commanded to cuddle and treat his wife kindly.

A man’s nature dictates him a certain way of expressing his feelings that is different from a woman’s. A woman expresses her love with words like; I love you, I miss you, I need you, etc. On the other hand, a man expresses love in actions and production and seldom with words. If a man wants to tell his wife that he loves her he buys her something she wants or brings some food and drinks or furniture for their house. According to a man, this is a form of love expression.

The generous Prophet Sallal Lahu Waalahe Waasalam has indeed overcome this negative trait in the nature of men. He used to express his love and passion verbally for Lady ‘A’isha, may Allah be pleased with her, treated her kindly, pampered her, and let his wives hear what they wished from their beloved husband and this is a significant aspect in a man – wife relationship. Ibn Assaker narrated- on the authority of Lady ‘A’isha, May Allah be pleased with her- that she said that the Prophet Sallal Lahu Waalahe Waasalam told her: “Won’t you be pleased to be my wife in this life and in the Hereafter?, I said: “Yes,” he said: “You are my wife in this life and the Hereafter.”

Imagine Lady ‘A’isha’s Radhi Allah Taalah anhauemotions having heard the words that guaranteed her security, love, and peace in this life and in the Hereafter.

Al ‘Aas Ibn Ar Rabee’- the husband of Zainab Radhi Allah Taalah Anhau the daughter of Prophet Muhammad Sallal Lahu Waalahe Waasalam- leaves Makkah escaping from Islam. She sends to him to return and embrace Islam. So He sends her a letter, an extract of which is: “By Allah, I don’t see your father as an offender and I love nothing more than following the same rout with you dear beloved. However, I hate being said that your husband has let his people down. Would you consider this and pardon me?” The letter demonstrates that Al ‘Aas loved Zainab Radhi Allah Taalah Anhau and wanted to be with her in whatever road. Moreover he hated that people would talk in a way that displeases her. At the end he asks her to consider and pardon him, for the sake of that love Zainab Radhi Allah Taalah Anhau managed to go to him and return with him a Muslim.

Some writers demonstrate the respect of the West to women by giving examples like a husband opening a car’s door to his wife. Although this apparently is respect, yet, a mature person can see many aspects in which a woman is being offended and disrespected in the West. Muslims do not have the issue of man/woman conflict because they believe each one completes the other and that mutual respect is a must.

Prophet Muhammad Sallal Lahu Waalahe Waasalam is our example in this. One time during his stay alone in adoration of Allah in the last ten days of Ramadan (observing I’tikaf), his wife Lady Safeya came to visit him and spoke with him for some time, then went to the door. Prophet Muhammad Sallal Lahu Waalahe Waasalam led her to the door to say goodbye. In another narration, he told her: “Do not hurry to leave till I come with you.” Her house was at Ussama’s and he Sallal Lahu Waalahe Waasalam left with her. Respect is the source of continual love and stability in a family. Therefore we wish that it prevails between a man and his wife.

If spouses treated each other in such way, a marriage would definitely be beautiful. We desperately need to leaf through the life of the Prophet Sallal Lahu Waalahe Waasalam and the Islamic history to discover the most beautiful theories in the art of marriage.

Economics and Obama!!!

An economics professor at a local college made a statement that he had never failed a single student before, but had recently failed an entire class. That class had insisted that Obama’s socialism worked and that no one would be poor and no one would be rich, a great equalizer.
The professor then said, “OK, we will have an experiment in this class on Obama’s plan”. All grades will be averaged and everyone will receive the same grade so no one will fail and no one will receive an A…. (substituting grades for dollars – something closer to home and more readily understood by all).

After the first test, the grades were averaged and everyone got a B. The students who studied hard were upset and the students who studied little were happy. As the second test rolled around, the students who studied little had studied even less and the ones who studied hard decided they wanted a free ride too so they studied little.

The second test average was a D! No one was happy. When the 3rd test rolled around, the average was an F. As the tests proceeded, the scores never increased as bickering, blame and name-calling all resulted in hard feelings and no one would study for the benefit of anyone else. To their great surprise, ALL FAILED and the professor told them that socialism would also ultimately fail because when the reward is great, the effort to succeed is great, but when government takes all the reward away, no one will try or want to succeed. It could not be any simpler than that.

Remember, there IS a test coming up. The 2012 elections.

These are possibly the 5 best sentences you’ll ever read and all applicable to this experiment:
1. You cannot legislate the poor into prosperity by legislating the wealthy out of prosperity.
2. What one person receives without working for, another person must work for without receiving.
3. The government cannot give to anybody anything that the government does not first take from somebody else.
4. You cannot multiply wealth by dividing it!
5. When half of the people get the idea that they do not have to work because the other half is going to take care of them, and when the other half gets the idea that it does no good to work because somebody else is going to get what they work for, that is the beginning of the end of any nation.

Marriage – Balance and Understanding

Soon after 1 month or so I was carving for time at my end, people at my end all said the same thing to me, that once you get married then we will ask you about it. Your life won’t remains yours at all. I always used to say let’s see it when time comes.

And so it happened, when I got married and moved back to Jeddah while my wife was still in homeland for the visa process to finish.

So we were talking for hours and hours which was understandable, but slowly and gradually I was carving for time for myself.

It’s been 6 years I have moved to Saudi Arabia, and I have been living independently, so I have my own little world besides me.

I have my own rigorous schedule that I love, I sleep early and wake up early and go out early in the morning for sea side walk, I get indulged in reading a book, or play xbox and alot more. No one to ask or bother me about anything. But after marriage things change and it goes not the way we wanted. Good or bad is a separate issue.

I thought for a while the reason for this, I realized that the main issue of argument between couple is because of this same reason. Wife say that when her husband comes back from office he should be all hers. And I agree to the women point of view, that after all they have been in home throughout the morning and they need company.

P.S: I am talking from the eastern culture point of view, where wife usually stays in home!!!

I said to myself what is the solution for this and what is the cause of this issue.

I led to this conclusion and talked with my wife about and she more or less agrees to it as well. It’s like that when wife thinks that men all their time in office and when they come back to home, all the time is theirs is wrong, since the amount of time spend in office is for both. No one can stay that this time which is spend is for one individual purpose.

After the office hours the hours needs to be calculated as to how much tentatively both of them have for together. Let’s suppose 5 or 6 or 4 hours whatever the case may be. This time either has to be spend together equally or a part of it has to be given in a ratio that husband gets some of the time for himself as well. Ofcourse he also needs some time for himself.

Our issue is that when husband comes home, they sit in front of television or internet, for wife and husband, the guy is resting instead he is tiring himself much more, and the result is after watching television he lies straight on the bed for 1 hour, after that dinner time, then after having diner no person on earth can have the energy left to go out or to talk for hours.

A simple formula would be that instead of watching television straight from office, spend either with wife or sleep or go to gym. Then spend the rest of the time with wife, in that way and by talking to wife about this partition of time, I personally think both will remain happy.

Do let me know, if you agree with this idea, as to whether it’s practical or not!!!

Known and Unknown!!!

For the past couple of days I am coming across some wonderful things on facebook that really make me think about my life and how to lead it, specially since I am married now and I have a huge burden upon my shoulders than ever before.

Out of these things that particular made think out loud are two:

Imam Ash-Shafi’ee used to say,

“Whenever I set myself the task to learn,I realize how little I know & the more I learn, the more I realize how ignorant I am.”

The other quote is a context of one verse of Quran (I don’t know the exact reference of it):

“Make your loneliness such that it becomes pure”

 

Abu Huraira (Radhi Allah Taalah Anhau) reported Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him) as saying:

“The strong man is not one who wrestles well, but the strong man is one who controls himself when he is in a fit of rage”

[Sahih Muslim, Kitab ul Aadaab, hadith # 6313]

‘Abdullah (R.A.) reported Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him) as saying:

“It is obligatory for you to tell the truth, for truth leads to virtue and virtue leads to Paradise, and the man who continues to speak the truth and endeavors to tell the truth is eventually recorded as truthful with Allah, and beware of telling of a lie for telling of a lie leads to obscenity and obscenity leads to Hell-Fire, and the person who keeps telling lies and endeavors to tell a lie is recorded as a liar with Allah”

[Sahih Muslim, Kitab ul Aadaab, hadith # 6309]

 

These quotes have immense wealth in them. A way of life towards this complex world we are living these days. Where everything is artificial so artificial that sometimes we ourselves don’t trust our self towards our emotions, feelings, sentiments, believes and much more.

Things started to get way weird in life, simplicity is vanished, living in a peaceful home becomes more complex than to be out.

It’s important to value life differently in a new prospective, the prospective of having something meaningful, so that when one comes and greet you, the person wishes to sit with you and find the required peace from you. I have met people in my life that whenever I met them, time stop by, I wanted to sit for long hours with them, and it happened to me quite often.

I reflect today at this time towards these moments, as to how they are able to do it, I guess today is the time for me to change, the time to make a better peaceful life for my family to reside me, not a life that they indulge in chaos, anger, worried, anxiety, stress, lack of time, jealous, envy, piety, selfishness and much more.

The most important thing at this point of time in today’s world is to build a meaningful family life, which is practical, rather than the artificial creation of media and of other people opinion.

Never before in the history of mankind we can express great stress in family life than ever before, the simple formula towards knowing this fact is take out the television in our life and the outing. Now realize if the whole family is sitting in the home what they will do. The answer is simple chaos, families these days in order to have their own peace indulge in activities that are unhealthy in itself.

We need to have a family life such that even if we take out the television / internet and don’t go out for outing, we have so much things at our disposal to make our family happy, content, peaceful and enjoyable.

A great task and a great responsibility.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

TRAIN JOURNEY !!

One old man was sitting with his 25 years old son in the train. Train is about to leave the station. All passengers are settling down their seat. As train started young man was filled with lot of joy and curiosity. He was sitting on the window side.He went out one hand and feeling the passing air. He shouted, “Papa see all trees are going behind”. Old man smile and admired son feelings.

Beside the young man one couple was sitting and listing all the conversion
between father and son. They were little awkward with the attitude of 25
years old man behaving like a small child.
Suddenly young man again shouted, “Papa see the pond and animals. Clouds
are moving with train”. Couple was watching the young man in
embarrassingly.

Now its start raining and some of water drops touches the young man’s hand.
He filled with joy and he closed the eyes. He shouted again,” Papa it’s
raining, water is touching me, see papa”.
Couple couldn’t help themselves and ask the old man. “Why don’t you visit
the Doctor and get treatment for your son.”
Old man said, “Yes, We are coming from the hospital as Today only my son
got his eye sight for first time in his life.”

Moral of The Story : : We should not try to draw conclusions until we know all the facts”.

O you who have believed, let not a people ridicule [another] people; perhaps they may be better than them; nor let women ridicule [other] women; perhaps they may be better than them. And do not insult one another and do not call each other by [offensive] nicknames. Wretched is the name of disobedience after [one's] faith. And whoever does not repent – then it is those who are the wrongdoers.(Quran 49:11)

‘O you who believe! avoid most of suspicion, for surely suspicion in some cases is a sin, and do not spy nor let some of you backbite others. Does one of you like to eat the flesh of his dead brother? But you abhor it; and be careful of (your duty to) Allah, surely Allah is Oft-returning (to mercy), Merciful’(Quran 49:12)

‎”Invite (all) to the Way of thy Lord with wisdom and beautiful preaching; and argue with them in ways that are best and most gracious.” Noble Qur’ân 16:125

Flattering!!!

HADITH ON PEOPLE WHO FLATTER OTHERS A LOT (zyada mu pe tareefein karna):

 

Abu Musa Radhi Allah Taalah Anhau / May Allah Subhan Waa Taalah be pleased with Him reported Allah’s Messenger Peace Be Upon Him saw a person lauding another person or praising him too much. Thereupon he said: “You killed him, or you sliced the back of a person”.

[Sahih Muslim, Hadith 7141]

 

Hadith scholars commenting on this say that if we praise a person on his face a lot, pride and arrogance (ghumandd) can develop inside him which can lead him astray. Therefore the woe “you killed him” ya’ni you praised him so much for no reason because another hadith says:

 

‘Abd al-Rahman b. Abu Bakra reported on the authority of his father that a person praised another person in the presence of Allah’s Apostle Peace Be Upon Him, whereupon he said: Woe be to thee, you have broken the neck of your friend, you have broken the neck of your friend-he said this twice. If one of you has to praise his friend at all, he should say: I think (him to be) so and Allah knows it well and I do not know the secret of the heart and Allah knows the destined end, and I cannot testify his purity against Allah but (he appears) to be so and so.

[Sahih Muslim, Hadith 7139]

Picture of thousand words!!!